August 03, 2012

I'd rather spread love

I've been thinking about this post, rewriting this post, deleting this post for about a week. I was having a hard time coming up with the right words. I was back and forth with my feelings. Mainly I was feeling pissed and hypocritical.

I'm pissed because people can be so hateful at times. I'm pissed because way too many people use God as an excuse to be hateful. True Christians don't judge. It's not our duty as a true Christian to judge someone else. Leave Judgement Day up to The Big Guy... who, from what I've heard, forgives all. He'll forgive haters for hating, he'll forgive sinners for sinning. Side thought: wouldn't you consider hatred to be a sin? It's really inconceivable to me how haters go out of their way to express their hate. How sad it must be to live in those shoes. To be so cruel to others who are simply living how they choose to live. To the haters, I've asked before but I'll ask again, how does a person's sexual preference directly impact your life? What is it exactly that draws out your hatred?

I'm hypocritical because while I think everyone has a right to stand up for what they believe in I also want to take these hateful words/actions and smash them to pieces.

My parents are awesome. For obvious reasons (they had me, hehe) but this week I was reminded of something else. Growing up, they did not talk ill of anyone while I was in their presence. They didn't bash or judge people for actions they may not do themselves. They are good, honest people. They allowed me to grow my own opinions. I bring this up because I've seen some pretty ugly things in the last few weeks. Ugly things grown ass adults are doing to their children. Such as, having a 5 year old wear an offensive shirt with the word "f@g" on it. How absolutely disgusting is that?? Really people, we are using our own children to spread hatred? Is it not bad enough we have adults with black hearts, can't we leave our children out of this until they are old enough to understand the argument? Please?!? 

Really though, how cute does a 5 year old look in a HRC shirt...super C.U.T.E.  

"If mom says no, ask mom"
"If dad says no, ask dad"

Oh shoot... was that me being hypocritical again? What can I say... Love Conquers Hate!

Instead of bashing, smashing, ranting and raging, I've decide to continue doing exactly what I have been doing... spreading awareness (with only an occasional outburst). If I put myself out there and spread awareness, I should expect some backfire. If a hater spreads hate, they should also expect backfire. That's just the way it is. If you are open to posting, blogging, talking about your beliefs then you should be strong enough to take criticism. If you are afraid of what your words/pictures may say about you then it's best to keep it to yourself.

To me, there are a few things in this life worth fighting for. Giving a person the right to choose who they love is one of them.


  1. Thanks for this post. I love it. What you say about your parents is so great. Thanks for the reminded to me (as a new dad) to make sure I don't teach judgement to my kids.

    And I totally need to get that "ask dad" t-shirt for my kids! :-)

  2. VERY well written Melissa!

    THANK YOU for all that you do to spread the good word!

  3. Great post! I'm getting the onesie in the dads version :)

  4. You cannot be a real Christian and support gay marriage at the same time. If you want to follow Christ, look in His word and see His view on gay marriage. How can you support people sinning? Is this the work of God in you, or another being? "To the law and to the testimony, if they speak not according to this word, it is because there is no light in them." 1 Corinthians 6:9 "Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind," This is not to condemn, but to bring light :) Matthew 7 "13 Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat:
    14 Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it."