February 22, 2013

Calling all (future) surrogates!

Did you know there is a shortage of surrogates?

Did you know surrogacy is illegal in many countries for same sex couples? Many same sex couples come to the States, get matched with surrogates and begin down a path that will, with all hope, lead to parenthood.

The agency I worked with on my journey is looking for awesome women to help make dreams come true. Everyone at IARC is extremely helpful, nice and not pushy at all.

If you are considering surrogacy, the best thing to do is get started by talking with knowledgeable people. You can research until your eyeballs want to fall out, but for me talking to IARC was what made me take action. I knew immediately after hanging up the phone that I was going to do this.

Surrogacy isn't something to take lightly though. You don't just take a day or two to think about it. The idea of surrogacy has been with me for so long. I wasn't thinking about it constantly, but the idea definitely tapped me on the shoulder quite often. You can read more about it here.

Just a few things to think about:

If you have a family of your own, you need to take them into consideration. To me, they had the most important opinions. If Jeremy wasn't on board with the idea, surrogacy wouldn't have been in my future.Thankfully, he has a big heart and also he realized how important this was to me.

Some husbands just can't wrap their minds around their wife carrying a child for someone else. If you find yourself in this boat, don't give up or become discouraged. Give him time to think about it, but talk about it, tell him how much it would mean to you. Remind him not everyone can have a baby the traditional way.

Your health is another consideration. Are you healthy enough to carry and deliver another baby or babies? Are you willing to give yourself shots, take fertility meds? There can be a lot of appointments. Will your employer allow this?

There is quite a bit to take into consideration (much more than I mention here) when thinking about surrogacy. This isn't something you can just jump into. I encourage anyone who has even had a quick thought about being a surrogate, gain some extra knowledge about it.

My journey went beyond what I imagined it would. I have a special relationship with my surrofamily. I adore them and feel so blessed to have been matched with them. I can't tell you how many surrogates have said the same about their journey and surrofamily.

Now is the time. Surrogacy is waiting for you, if you so desire it.

And just for fun..........


  1. This made me smile. thank you for being such a positive influence on the whole surrogacy process. Our surro was and is wonderful and for the right person, I belive it could provide an incredible amount of joy (for all parties!)